Love Bites: Lost Love, Heartbreak and Music

This month's columnist reflects on the emotional staying power of music

Article by Jex Wang | 03 Apr 2020
  • Clubbing Highlights September 2013

I burst into tears on the bus because my friend sent me a song I had been avoiding for over nine years. She had no idea I was meant to send that song to my high school sweetheart who unfortunately passed away before I could get it to him. The mere track title reduced me to a mess thinking about one of the most devastating heartbreaks of my life.

As I sat there silently weeping to the song on the bus, I began to realise that it had been a long time since I really thought about that relationship. I kept playing it on repeat until eventually my tears dried and I started to smile thinking about how pure and wholesome it was to be in love for the first time. The song took me back to a time when I had no fear when it came to love because I didn’t know how bad it could be. As bitter as I am about not being able to be in that mindset again, I am still eternally grateful that I got to experience it.

By the time I got home, I had added the song to one of my playlists and was humming the lyrics in my head. In my life, I’ve experienced a multitude of heartbreaks but also numerous cherished moments with family, lovers and friends that I will remember forever. Certain pieces of music end up becoming the soundtrack to these moments. I appreciate how they have the power to bring back some cherished memories that I pushed away due to heartbreak.