Cybersex

Last night I logged onto an online cyber sex chat room for the first time in a long time. The site – http://www.babblesex.com/ – was like a blast from the past. Specific chat rooms with lurid names like ‘horny!!!’ or ‘Girlz Pink Room’ (with the disclaimer “Girls Only, no guys – you will be kicked then banned – chat = instant ban. No pics off tineye and no fake pics unless you can prove otherwise!”).

It seemed almost quaint to be wandering around a text based site like Babblesex. While the demand for “real pics” and web-cams was high the focus was definitely on the anonymous cyber-sexual encounters that the old Internet was known for. 

The ratio of guys to girls definitely came down heavily on the guys side, but there seemed to be sexualities of all types hanging out. Private messaging was enabled, sometimes as a prerequisite to entering a room (horny!!! – “Please keep cyber and pm’s in pm”), sometimes deliberately ignored to satisfy a kink (sluts to gangbang – “Non-PM (without permission) please abide”).

What I’ve always liked about text based cyber sex is the creative use of language. In ‘sluts to gangbang’ there was a request by the admin not to use third person narration. Of course, a verbal group orgy isn’t going to be the most literary occasion in the world, but the language geek in me smiled at that.

Like with most things to do with sex, a cybering chat room can often be unintentionally funny. Again this may be a fault of the creative use of language, but a person can only take so many exclamation marks and earnestly terrible prose before you’re rolling on the floor laughing, orgasm forgotten.

I used to be incredibly into cybersex. I’ve had my own private bedroom and computer since I was thirteen, and it was easy and relatively risk free. Not to mention enlightening. Things I would never dream of doing in real life can be experimented with over the Internet, with the little red crossed box in the upper left hand corner offering a quick exit, should you need it. 

Lets admit that with new technology comes new ways of having sexual encounters. People have been writing sexually explicit letters to each other since we worked out you could write words down and hand them to someone else. Telephones create phone sex, and the Internet has drastically expanded how we related to our sexuality.

Keep it consensual, keep it legal, keep it safe, but why not try it in cyberspace?